1. I love half asian people. They are incredibly beautiful, and I'm excited as an Asian woman dating a white man to one day produce one of these beautiful creatures.
2. I wish I spoke better Chinese so I could better communicate my life to my Chinese dad. My parents divorced when I was young, and so every couple of weeks when I meet up with him I have so much to say, and so little to convey it with.
3. It always feels so easy for people to mock a Chinese person, especially when their English is subpar. I think my parents are always a little scared of the world, that someone will harass them for their grammar and race. That makes me sad.
Friday, May 22, 2009
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I'm Black and asian. My father is Korean , my mother is from Jamaica. I secretly wish that no one knew I was half asian. Everyone expects me to look like a skinny asian woman with long silky hair. I'm 5'9, I'm a 40G cup. My hair is long thick curly and african.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could live as happy in the world of Asians as I am around Caribbean and black people.
I feel like no one thinks I should exist. If my mother was white I would be "bueatiful" but since my mother is black, everyone pretends I'm nothing at all.
I ussually date Asian men, but I secretly don't want to marry one. I want my children to be happier than me.
It breaks my heart every time I see an Asian girl with a white guy. Many of the Asian girls I know prefer to date/marry white, and some will flat out refuse to date Asian guys. Many days out of the week I'll see plenty of WMAF couples, but not a single Asian couple.
ReplyDeleteOn those days, I'll dream about a future where Asian men are bred out, mostly because of that stupid Esther Ku joke that asks if we will go extinct.
Haha, anonymous cowards commenting in here with truly misogynistic, ugly attitudes -- according to a mixed dude, the only "real" Asian women are the ones who are attractive to him. :P I wonder what kind of woman you've landed with your awful attitude about women.
ReplyDeleteI personally can't stand Asian women who completely dismiss Asian men as being "undateable" because they believe in stereotypes which are outdated and untrue. At the same time, I also can't stand Asian men who blame all Asian women for being "race traitors" because they -dare- date outside the race. Everyone needs to stop making stupid fucking assumptions about everyone else.
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ReplyDelete"I'm Black and asian. My father is Korean , my mother is from Jamaica. I secretly wish that no one knew I was half asian. Everyone expects me to look like a skinny asian woman with long silky hair. I'm 5'9, I'm a 40G cup. My hair is long thick curly and african.
I wish I could live as happy in the world of Asians as I am around Caribbean and black people.
I feel like no one thinks I should exist. If my mother was white I would be "bueatiful" but since my mother is black, everyone pretends I'm nothing at all.
I ussually date Asian men, but I secretly don't want to marry one. I want my children to be happier than me."
I hear you.
Myself, as a mixed Asian American man, I am not ashamed, at all, of my Asian heritage.
Yeah definitely, I can relate to the anguish you are experiencing concerning how you are treated by your peers because you are mixed. (You said that you 'wish that you could live as happy in the world of Asians as I am around Caribbean and black people.') And how you feel concerning how much better Eurasians are treated then Afro-Asians in American and Global society. These things are definitely true.
But please, don't internalize it to the point that it crushes your self-esteem, and therefore your perception on your own Asian and Afro-centric dual-heritage.
Be damn proud for who you are and don't allow the pressures of ppl in this society dictate to you who you should identify myself with.
I don't. Because I don't believe in doing the drop one race rule. I really don't care how other ppl feel about my dual heritage.
My hopes is that when you read this you may have a change of heart and realize you are beautiful because of the dual heritage that you have.
Lastly, I would think that the comments should be moderated rather then barring persons from commentating in this blog. Some of the males here too, minus the obvious trollbaiters, do in fact come up with truthful points in constructive criticism in response to the blog entry without necessarily looking to cause insult for injury.
ReplyDeleteI think people jump to conclusions too fast about interracial/interfaith dating. I'm an Asian female (not East Asian, but South Asian - so think the browner, southern half of the continent). When I began dating my white boyfriend - not a day went by without me consistently having to prove my "brownness" to people around me. I liked brown guys, and had a crush on one right before I started dating my current boyfriend, but no opportunity arose for us to be together. It confuses and scares me that people had a special word for who they saw as white 'racists', and the sell-out sluts that associated with them. Isn't racism going both ways here? I wish we didn't have to be this superficial. A lot of interracial couples don't merely date for looks, or to jump up on the racial heirarchy, even if #1 proved otherwise. I'm proud of being brown, associating with brown people and speaking my brown language. Dating someone who doesn't look like me does not belittle my perceptions of myself.
ReplyDeleteit's every person's right how they want to choose who they want to choose, especially when it comes to an intimate partner.
ReplyDeletedo i think using race as a basis is misguided? yes, but there are myriad reasons to be or not to be with me. by all means, use my race among them. quick way to know our values are different.
what i don't understand about those who complain about not being given a fair chance by SOME members of the opposite sex due to race, why they care to want to be judged by those members in the first place.